Do You Know How To ‘Let Go With Love’? - Forbes

How do you let go of what weights you down?
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The situation reminded me of an old-fashioned record that had gotten stuck in the same groove. Each encounter led to strong feelings of frustration and depleted my energy. The details of the situation really don’t matter, it only mattered that every time the outcome was the same. I was using my best efforts to meet the event with compassion and creativity but nothing changed. And this repetitiveness was taking a toll on my body and my mind.

This morning, during some time of mindfulness meditation and quiet reflection, I finally could see it with greater clarity. It was likely to be an unending conflict and challenge. And it was time for a change...to me. In as skillful a manner as I could muster, I chose to let it go...with love.

What did that look like? First, and most importantly, I recognized that what had to be let go was my desire for anything or anyone to be different. My choice to let ‘it’ go was to let go of my judgment of how things should be. Even with good intentions, I could see that I was a big part of the conflict and challenge. And, it was the only part that I could really change. Once I let go of my part, I could choose to be with what was here with an open mind and heart, or, if that was too much right now, I could choose to give myself more space and walk away. And letting it go in this way allowed for love to enter. When I let go with love, many parts were touched with that love-love for self, love for others, love for the institution. It felt peaceful. And when I start to feel that judging mind returning, which I am sure it will at times, I hope that feeling will be a reminder.

Are there parts of your life that feel a little like the old movie ‘Groundhog Day’? If so, find a quiet place and reflect on some simple questions. What toll is the person or situation taking on you, on your family, on your team? Is it time to ‘let go’? Can you accept it as it is with an open mind and heart? Or, is it time for more space? What would letting it go ‘with love’ look like for you? How would it feel?

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